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sasha 🛸's avatar

Cried the whole time reading this, I’m so sorry alcoholism robbed you of a goodbye ❤️‍🩹 If you’re comfortable sharing: I’d love to know what his favourite books were x

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

Thank you angel. ❤️ he loved the mortal instruments series and also loved the shannara chronicles. He would read absolutely anything sci-fi, fantasy, mystery but was also reading a book about mandarin phrases when he passed away haha. He was a character for sure.

sasha 🛸's avatar

I adore the mortal instruments!! Sounds like he had excellent taste 🙂‍↕️

Talia Briske's avatar

i’m sobbing. this is a beautiful beautiful piece. i’m lucky enough to still have both parents in my life, but my dad’s dad died when he was a baby so i’m extra sensitive when it comes to grieving a dead father (hence the sobbing lol).

i’m honored to know this piece of your life and i’m honored to share in these memories of your father. if you ever want to share more of him with us, i’ll be here to read it. thank you for your vulnerability, i’ll be sending extra love and hugs you way this week whitney ❤️❤️❤️

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

Thank you talia ❤️ im sorry your dad didn’t get time with his. It’s such a hole in one’s life. Thank you for reading and for being so kind and supportive, as always!

Penn Locke's avatar

As a dad, I find myself selfishly hoping my kids write about me one day like this. Only remembering the good. Asking people to ask about me.

It's beautiful, thank you for sharing.

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

I’m sure they will ❤️🫂 thank you for your beautiful comment, Penn!

The Den's avatar

That one got tears out of me - thank you for sharing

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

Thank you for reading. ❤️❤️❤️

The Next Chapter's avatar

To your dad. And all he represents in your heart

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

francesca ❀'s avatar

I know this took a lot of strength to write and post so thank you so much for bearing your heart and sharing something so personal <3 I wish you so much comfort and peace and love !!!

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

It really, really did. I didn’t have the strength to re-read it or spell check it. It just came straight from the heart in one go and I hit publish. Thank you for taking the time to read it ❤️

Swarna's avatar

Reading this made me cry, I hope you're doing okay, much love to you 💗

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

Thank you for reading ❤️❤️❤️

lily's avatar

made me cry. some of my best friends have lost their dads very recently, and this is incredible for me to read and share. thank you for helping so many

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

I’m so sorry for their losses. You’re such a good friend to think of them and support them. Thank you for reading and for your kind words ❤️

The Sleepy Wildflower's avatar

I lost my mama almost 22 years ago and it still feels like yesterday. I know your pain. I also got the call and arrived too late. Our parents sound similar, with their beautiful side and their flawed side. Like you, I hang on for dear life to the beautiful side. Did your dad have a nickname for you?

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

I am also so sorry you lost your mama. She sounds like she was a beautiful soul. I bet she’s so proud of you ❤️

The Sleepy Wildflower's avatar

Thank you, whitney. I always get teary-eyed whenever someone says she’s proud of me because the only time she told me she was proud was in a dream years after she passed. 🥹🧡

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

You asking about the nickname stopped me in my tracks. He did! He called me “beautiful one” my whole life and I am getting it tattooed right now. That is so incredible that you asked me that!

The Sleepy Wildflower's avatar

Oh, I love that nickname. Despite whatever flaws he had, he loved you big. 🧡

Lianna Rodriguez's avatar

I lost my dad too 💔💔 and this article popped up on my feed. Thank you for sharing ❤️ sending you healing ❤️‍🩹

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

I’m so sorry you know the pain of this too ❤️ sending you love x

Vivienne Vale's avatar

😞😪

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

❤️❤️❤️❤️

Ella 𐙚's avatar

There’s nothing I can say, there are no words that will be enough for everything you deserve to hear. I’m so sorry. I’m so sorry and I am sending you every inch of love I have <3

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

Oh angel thank you for reading and for always being so kind and supportive. So glad our substack paths have crossed.

margaretta's avatar

sending u a big big hug <3 take care today

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

Thank you 🫂🫂🫂🫂

_.tulipsfornana._'s avatar

Also I'd love to know what his hobbies were?

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

Reading, painting, drawing and making clay models! He also loved a good conspiracy theory and would read about them and watch videos on them for hours. He was a really talented and interesting man!

_.tulipsfornana._'s avatar

Omggg! Making clay models is so interesting

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

Oh and he loved singing! He had a beautiful voice

_.tulipsfornana._'s avatar

He sounds so interesting. Just like you are ✨️

_.tulipsfornana._'s avatar

Thankyou so much for writing this. Sending you hugs 🫂🩷

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

aditi's avatar

in tears. thank you for sharing. sending love. 🤍

Whitney Kira 🦢's avatar

Thank you so much for reading ❤️🫂